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To My Daughter on Valentine's Day

Why We Celebrate the Idea of Love

· Fatherhood

Happy Valentine’s Day, my love!

I know Valentine’s Day probably doesn’t mean anything to you so let me try and explain what it means to me.

Every year in the month of February, we set aside one day to celebrate the idea of love and we call it Valentine’s Day. This is a very special day because love is a very special idea.

Love is something you feel and something you do.

You feel love when you can be yourself without having to be afraid that someone else won’t like you. You do love when you show someone else that they can be who they are without having to be afraid that you won’t like them.

You are naturally good at doing love, without being told how. You show Daddy you love me when you climb up in my lap and ask me to read you a book, when you offer me one of your pretzels, and when you give me a kiss on the cheek.

Daddy is good at doing love too. I show you I love you when I hold you in the pool during swim lessons, when I stack blocks up for you to smash over, and when I rock you back to sleep in the middle of the night after you have a bad dream.

When we show love, we feel love. This is very special.

Another reason we celebrate the idea of love is because when you feel love, you don’t have to be afraid to talk about your ideas and your feelings. There isn’t anyone else in the world like you. Your ideas and feelings are yours, and no one else has the same ones. So, when you feel love, you can talk about your ideas and feelings without worrying that someone else won’t like them. You don’t have to share your ideas and feelings with anyone else. But if you want to, it can feel good for you and it might help someone else feel good too.

Talking about your ideas and feelings with someone else might help that person feel love, just like Daddy feels love when you tell him about your ideas and your feelings. When you do this, it might help the other person not feel afraid to talk about their ideas and feelings.

Love is easy to feel and easy to do.

Sometimes it helps to have someone else show you love, like a friend or a family member. But you can always feel love and do love, all by yourself. You just have to show yourself that you can be who you are without having to be afraid that you won’t like yourself.

That probably sounds a little confusing, but it just means that you like yourself, no matter what. When you do this, you will feel love. You don’t need anything from anyone else to feel love.

It’s like having a superpower!

Sometimes things will happen that might make you feel like you don’t like yourself. Maybe someone will say something to you or maybe you will have thoughts that make you feel like you don’t like yourself. That’s okay. Everyone feels like this sometimes.

But if you remember your superpower, you can change how you feel! You can always find something to like about yourself, which means you can always feel love. You don’t have to wait for someone else to help you feel love. You can feel love right now.

When you feel love, it’s easy to show someone else love. All you have to do is use your superpower with that person by finding something about them that you like. When you tell them what you like about them, you are showing them how to use the superpower to feel love for themselves. This is how we do love with other people.

You might feel afraid to tell other people what you like about them, or you might not want to tell them because they did something mean to you. That’s okay. Everyone feels like this sometimes. But remember, you can always use your superpower to feel love and then you don’t have to be afraid anymore.

It might sound funny that we just have one day to celebrate such a special idea like love.

You’re right. We should celebrate love every day. But sometimes we forget how special love is and we forget how to use our superpowers. So, we need a special day to help remind us.

When Daddy was little, Valentine's Day was always a special day. Your grandma wanted me to know how much she loved me, and so she showed me with small gifts. Sometimes she gave me a thoughtful card and other times it would be a funny pair of underwear with red hearts on them to make me laugh. Now I want to pass that tradition on to you and show you how much I love you by making Valentine's Day a special day.

May you never forget how special love is.

May you never forget how to use your superpower to feel love and do love.

And may you never forget how loved you are.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Love Always,

Your Daddy.

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